In my journey, there was a distinct period in which I was “considering” being transgender. I wasn’t sure about a lot of things: what being transgender meant, how transgender people felt, whether that was similar to how I felt, whether I was trans, and in my case, whether feeling not-male-not-female “qualified” me to be trans.
I’ll echo what Zak said with an excerpt from one of my posts titled “Finding Yourself”:
Zak: We regularly get questions like this, so you are 100% not alone in feeling this way. Things aren’t crystal clear for some people from an early age. Yes, that’s the case for some people (for instance some of Adrian’s earliest memories involve feeling very strongly that he was male). For others, though, it can take a long time to figure things out and there can be points of confusion, doubt, and uncertainty. That’s how it was for me. I didn’t figure out I was trans until I was 18, and I spent quite a while going between considering myself to be genderqueer vs male. I also took a couple of years to decide to take testosterone, and that was a really difficult decision for me. Now, I don’t deal with confusion or doubt really at all and I’m comfortable with my identity and happy with the decisions I’ve made. I think it’s important for people in our position to really do their research and think things through. However, I think it can be hard to trust ourselves because the dominant trans narrative assumes that there should be no confusion and that if you didn’t know you were trans at age 6 than you’re really doing it wrong (so to speak). Anyway, I’d say don’t worry too much about what other people think (vis-a-vis being a “transtrender” or what-not). Trust yourself, listen to yourself, and give yourself the mental space and time to figure things out. Don’t feel pressured to be completely sure of your identity right away. For some people it takes some thinking, some research, talking it out, and some experimentation (for instance, trying going out dressed a certain way or going by a different name and pronouns online for a bit). This is a long answer, but I just want you to know that it’s okay to question, it’s okay not to know! You’ll eventually figure things out.
People are in constant flux. We age, we grow, we buy clothes, we change jobs, we move houses, we make families – you never really know what lies ahead.
We all have many identities – gender being just one of them – which are forever evolving.
Not everyone is sure of their gender identity, now or ever – even those with binary-gendered identities. Often it’s more of a matter of unlearning all the stuff you grew up believing in your entire life, and building something new, and scary, and unknown.
Give yourself room and space and time to explore gender and what it means to you.
i can’t believe i used to think people my age were adults
I have a color tv but all I see are white people
How Being Trans Made Me Hot: An Autobiography
it’s just… it’s just a weird thing to me that no one is really seriously alarmed by this, no one treats environmentalism like the necessity it is. our planet is dying, we’re going to run out of food, the water supply is privatized and the most people can muster is like… driving a hybrid? switching lightbulbs? I’m so tired
cis people will literally use she/her pronouns for cis male drag queens before they will for trans women
—(107/365) by (DS)
i love being the radical degenerate queer of the family.
—Kate le Vann, Things I Know About Love (via quotes-shape-us)
Cigarettes do kill,
Life goes on,
with or without you.
—sad facts that come along with existing (via clumsiest)
—(107/365) by (DS)